
CHAPTER TWO: THE PERSON AND LOVE
III . MORAL ANALYSIS OF LOVE
13. The choice and responsibility
No other part of this work falls more appropriately undoubtedly title Love and responsibility "to it. There is responsibility in love, which takes the person to whom it draws closer to the communion of life and action, and, thanks to the gift of self, comes to be, to a certain extent, our property. For this same load one also with a responsibility to his own love: is it true, mature and deep enough not to disappoint the overwhelming confidence of the other person or hope, born of his love that he gives her does not lose its "soul", but on the contrary, is greater fullness of being? Responsibility for love comes down, we're seeing, the responsibility for the person, it is derived from it and returns it. For this precisely because there is in it an immense responsibility. But he can not understand its importance but the one with the full awareness of the value of the individual. who is able to react only to the sexual values, but not sees the person, it just always confused with the erotic love, complicating his life and that of other private and private to Ultimately, the true meaning and the true "flavor" of love. This "taste" is inseparable from the feeling of responsibility for the person, a responsibility that includes caring for your true good, quintessence of altruism and seal an infallible expa nsión of "me" and my life to those who come to add another "me" and another life to me are so close as mine. The feeling of responsibility that takes one of the other person is often not devoid of care, but is never in itself unpleasant or painful. Because what constitutes its substance is not a limitation or impoverishment of being, but on the contrary, enrichment and expansion. For this a love that refuses this responsibility is its own negation, it is always and inevitably selfish. The subject feels the most responsible person, the more there is in it true love.
What we have of finding casts a vivid light on the problem of choice. As mentioned, the natural way of love leads to a gift and a gum Perten reciprocal people. This road has to pass necessarily , for both, the choice of the person which was directed towards the love of husbands and the gift of himself. Such a choice is the importance and weight of the final result: the person is chosen, and with it, how spousal love, mutual gift of self. It chooses to find in it his other self, so to speak, it's like if you pick yourself in the other person, and the other in itself. It is therefore important that the choice is of a truly personal which bears, at the same time, the mark of true relationship of people. Two people can not belong to each other than if, objectively , are good about being together. The human being is, indeed, always and above all a person, and that can not only live with another human being, but what is more, live for him and for him, it is necessary that is constantly in the other and qu and constantly find themselves. Love is inaccessible to humans mutually impenetrable own inner spirituality and people create the conditions of mutual penetration, in which these beings can live in each other and also each other.
Beyond these considerations , a problem arises very interesting and very large problem that could be called the "psychology of the election. " What elements psycho-physiological determine that two people are attracted to each other, besides being together and to belong ? Does all this rules and general principles derived from the structure psycho-physiological man? What is the part of the somatic and constitutive act and to what extent the temperament and character? These are interesting problems, but it seems that, despite all attempts to find a general answer, the choice remains, at this point, the mystery of human individuals. There are no rules in this area; moral philosophy and teachers owe their authority of sanity vital to the very fact that no attempt to identify these problems rather than to the extent it can be. Particular sciences such as physiology, sexology and medicine were to adopt the same principle, while helping to moral philosophy and to carry out their practical work.
Based on the premise of a reasonable empiricism, there be noted therefore that the choice of the person of the opposite sex object Married Love -And, by reciprocity, will also co-creator of love has to rely to some extent in sexual values. Because this love is to look sexual form the basis of the common life of two persons of different sexes. impossible to imagine without entering a game and sexual values \u200b\u200belsewhere. These, as we know, are related not only to the impression conveyed by the body as a possible object of pleasure but also to the whole impression made by the person of the opposite sex: one for masculinity, femininity by another. This second impression is more important and, chronologically, it appears la primera: la juventud sana y no depravada descubre a través de los valores sexuales de buenas a primeras una persona de sexo diferente y no un cuerpo en cuanto objeto posible de placer Cuando sucede la inversa, estamos a nte un caso de depravación, que hace difícil el amor, y sobre todo la elección de la persona.
Porque en la elección de la persona, los valores sexuales no pueden jugar el papel de motivo único, ni siquiera —si se analiza hasta lo último este acto voluntario— el de motivo principal. Esto sería contrario al concepto mismo the choice of the individual. If sexual values \u200b\u200bwere the sole reason or just the principal, could not speak for the election of the person, but only the choice of the opposite sex, represented by a person or simply a possible object of enjoyment body. It appears, therefore, entirely clear that the value of the person has d and be the main reason for the choice. Main reason why no means unique. Deemed as the only acceptable amount to dispense with the data of a reasonable empiricism, such a view would be marked with the imprint apriorism formalist formalism characteristic of Kant's moral . The fact that the choice of the loved one is dictated not only by sexual values, but also and above all the values \u200b\u200bof the person gives love its stability. For if sexual values \u200b\u200bare transformed or even eliminated, the essential value of the person, remains. The choice of the person is true when you consider this value as the most important and decisive. The choice of the loved one would have to go through the senses and experienced sexual values \u200b\u200bin a certain way, but ultimately everyone has to choose the person not so much because of their sexual values As sexual values \u200b\u200bthanks to the person.

Only such a choice is an interior act mature and complete, because only then it meets the true integration of the object, have the person apprehended in its truth. It is the truth here when all values the object of choice for the individual are subordinated to the value of the beloved's sexual values, thus acting on the senses and feelings are treated properly then . If, however, is the main or only reason for the choice, it is incomplete and false in itself, because it ignores the whole truth about its subject, the person. Such a choice is fatally starting point of a love-integrated, then it also false and incomplete.
Indeed, life confirms the value of the right choice when the affection of sensuality and sexual values \u200b\u200butterly fail to act. There is not then more than the value of the person, and displays the inner truth of love. If delivery has been a true and genuine ownership of the people, not only maintain, but will be even stronger and more entrenched. If, however, has not been more than a synchronization sensuality and emotion lose its rationale and the people who had embarked in it, will find themselves suddenly in a vacuum. There will never be forgotten that all human love go through a trial of strength and then reveal all its grandeur.
When the choice is an act of love inwardly matured and integrated into the inner life of the person, which is indispensable, also becomes psychologically and, especially, emotionally. Indeed, while sensuality and emotions show instability and a special mobility-which always causes some concern, maybe unconscious, mature love is fought inside it by choosing the person. The crowd is quiet safe, because it ceases to be absorbed by itself and is dedicated to continuing its objective, the person. purely subjective truth of feeling gives way to the objective truth of the person subject to the choice and love. Thanks to this, the fans get new special features, is simple and lucid. While purely emotional love is characterized by an idealization of its object (we discussed this in the course of psychological analysis), love concentrate on the value of the person makes love as she is truly : no the idea that we do, but be real. The love with their strengths and weaknesses, and to a certain point, regardless Despite its virtues and its flaws . The extent of such love is revealed most clearly in the time your order commits a foul when his weaknesses, even his sins are undeniable. The man who truly loves not only not denied then your love, but on the contrary, he loves even more, while being aware of their shortcomings and faults, but not approved. Because the same person never loses its essential value person. A hobby that continues to value the person, remains faithful to the man.
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